As I stood with my friend Lex, picnic blanket in hand, the atmosphere was charged with excitement. The sun blazed down on Bryant Park as we prepared for the free movie screening of Forrest Gump.

“Ready?” Lex asked, positioning herself for a quick dash as the marshal approached.

“Yeah, you?” I replied, sliding my sunglasses into my hair, keen to keep my vision clear for the impending rush.

As the clock neared 5 PM on that June day, the anticipation was palpable among the crowd, all eager to claim their spots on the lawn.

“3… 2… 1… GO!”

We surged forward, blankets flying as the lawn filled to capacity in mere seconds. Laughter mingled with the buzz of excitement as we settled in, snacks at the ready. I felt a sense of camaraderie with the strangers around me, their lives intersecting with mine in this moment.

However, in the midst of this joy, Lex's demeanor shifted. She scanned our surroundings, her focus intense.

“What are you looking for?” I inquired.

“The nearest exit,” she replied, her tone serious.

“Why?” I asked, puzzled.

“In case we need to leave quickly,” she explained, her gaze still darting around.

Her words struck me; I hadn’t even entertained such thoughts. In that moment, I realized we were experiencing this event through entirely different lenses.

While I reveled in the human connections around me, Lex viewed the crowd as a potential threat—something to be wary of.

This stark contrast in perspectives became clearer as I reflected on conversations I've had with other Americans. Many share Lex's concerns: whether at sports events, concerts, or even shopping, anxiety lurks. They often avoid sitting with their backs to the entrance and feel uneasy filling their gas tanks alone after dark.

As a European, this mindset is perplexing. I stroll through my neighborhood without a phone, hop into taxis without a second thought, and have even given rides to strangers. In Spain, I’ve never felt the shadow of imminent danger looming over me.

However, it seems that for many Americans, fear is a constant companion. It’s not just about personal safety; it’s woven into the fabric of everyday life. The phrase “Land of the free, home of the brave” feels ironic when fear often dictates choices and behaviors.

During my stay in an Italian hostel with an American friend, she casually placed a tub of Vaseline by her bed. I later discovered it contained pepper spray—a precaution against a hypothetical “crazy person with a weapon.” It struck me that she was oblivious to her own role in this narrative of fear.

Spain is often seen as a safe haven, and I can attest to that. Yes, incidents occur, but they are infrequent and not woven into daily life as they are in America.

The constant vigilance many Americans maintain is understandable, given their history with violence. It’s a delicate balance of being sensitive to threats while simultaneously becoming desensitized to them.

I empathize with the mental exhaustion of living in survival mode. My hope is for Americans to find moments of respite and peace. If that relief can be found in Spain, then you are warmly welcomed here—safe and sound.

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