1. Each Journey is Distinct

A crucial reason to refrain from comparing ourselves to others is the uniqueness of each individual's path. Everyone has diverse backgrounds, life experiences, skills, and situations that shape their journey. What one person deems a success may not resonate with another.

Consider one of my close friends, who excelled academically and had the privilege of choosing any university in the country. Surprisingly, he opted to work at KFC for a year after graduation and ended up staying for three years. This decision puzzled me; I viewed it as squandering potential. Yet, fifteen years later, he is still a support worker, thriving in his role. Whenever we discuss his journey, he often reflects, "I would probably spend another two years at KFC first."

2. The Hidden Struggles

People often present an idealized version of their lives on social media, but we rarely glimpse the struggles beneath the surface. Unrealistic expectations can burden us, causing unnecessary competition. Measuring your progress against others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and anxiety as you chase standards that may not suit your life.

For instance, my wife has a friend who travels abroad multiple times a year and shares her adventures online. While my wife, who has children, feels pressured to keep up, I discovered through assisting her friend with financial planning that she was actually drowning in debt—far from the picture-perfect life she portrayed.

3. Impeding Self-Discovery and Personal Growth

Consistently assessing your worth based on others’ achievements can hinder your self-discovery and growth. This behavior diverts your attention from your own strengths, weaknesses, and passions.

For example, when a university friend landed a job at a prestigious accounting firm, I felt compelled to pursue a similar path, despite my better grades. After applying to various firms, I landed an internship at Deloitte. However, I soon realized that my true passion lay elsewhere, leading me back to my previous role at a charity. Today, I work for an International Aid Agency, where I find fulfillment.

It's vital to resist the temptation to compare yourself to others. Embrace your individuality and appreciate the distinctiveness of your journey. Instead of seeking validation through external comparisons, prioritize your personal growth and self-improvement.

Celebrate your small victories and recognize that your journey is uniquely yours. By doing so, you will discover your fulfillment—not someone else's.

I wish you all the best as you navigate your own path. Thank you for reading.